Understanding & Overcoming Anger

            Anger as a foothold.  Many verses warn about the danger of unconfessed unrighteous anger and how demons can use it to gain access to the angry person (2 Corinthians 2:10-11).   “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold”  (Ephesians 4:26-27). 

LESSON FOR TODAY: Anger comes from mishandling hurt and pain.  Instead of feeling the hurt we turn it into anger for revenge or control.  This allows demons to use it as an opening.  There is a lack of control that opens the door.  Also, it is almost like a prayer for power to hate someone, and demons seek to answer that prayer.  They made Saul angry at David, so much so that he tried to kill David (I Samuel 18:10-11; 19:9-10).  Paul says there is a very close connection between anger and demonizing (Ephesians 4:27).

Pain must be handled as pain, not turned into anger.  You can’t bury something alive and think you are getting rid of it.  The hurt must be dead – faced, admitted, healed, removed, forgiven.  When a person buries hurt alive it keeps poisoning everything until it is dug out and destroyed.

While there is a legitimate use for anger (‘righteous indignation’) most of what we face is not right.  Anger is a secondary emotion, unlike fear which is a basic emotion.  Wrong anger is always the result of mishandling another, deeper emotion like fear or pain.  Let’s take pain, first of all.  When a person hits their finger with a hammer what do they do?  Usually they get angry.  What they feel is pain, but it comes out as anger because anger is a much easier emotion to handle than pain.  When someone says something critical or threatening it hurts, but the natural response in many is to get angry.  That way they don’t have to face the pain – but it stays and causes more and more anger.  That’s where fear comes in.  It’s not just pain that causes anger, but fear of pain.  Fear is at the root of anger in other ways as well.  To seek to manage our fears we try to control our lives and circumstances (thus the control emphasis part grows).  We feel that is necessary to prevent pain and other things we fear.  We use anger as a control tool.  The adrenalin rush makes us feel in charge instead of a victim.  We learn that people can be manipulated and controlled by our anger (or the threat of it) and we use that to control as well.  This is another reason why it’s important to deal with and get victory over the fears down inside.  When they go the anger and control issues will become much more manageable.  A person can’t stop their anger as long as what causes it is still inside pushing it out.  They must get the root cause out, and that is where dealing with the fear comes in.  (For more information see 5. 2 Corinthians.)

 

(If I can answer questions or offer personal counsel, or if you would like a free copy of my Spiritual Warfare Handbook, email me at Jerry@ChristianTrainingOrganization.org or download it from http://sw.christiantrainingonline.org/.  My next book, Spiritual Warfare in the Bible, which is a more advanced treatment of spiritual warfare, is also available there for free.)

 

C t O Rev. Dr. JERRY SCHMOYER
Christian Training Organization
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